Women and orgasms

There's this article on Reuters UK that explains why a lot of women can't orgasm.

"We found that between 34 percent and 45 percent of the variation in ability to orgasm can be explained by underlying genetic variation," said Tim Spector, of the Twin Research Unit at St. Thomas' Hospital in London. "There is a biological underlying influence that can't be attributed purely to upbringing, religion or race"

Sorry, but I cannot accept that at all. A woman will ALWAYS orgasm slower than a man. And sometimes, when work fatique and mental stresses lay siege to a body, it's hard to even desire sex, let alone achieve orgasms. But that's not the norm. I DO NOT believe it's genes and I believe EVERY WOMAN has the ability to achieve at least one orgasm in a session.

I have 2 things to say to women groping for any excuse to blame other people.

** Don't blame your partner for poor sexual skills**
What are you? A dumb, wooden doll that you cannot, at the very least, hint to him? Do you lie there like a log? Sex, or lovemaking, is a 2-way thing. You have BOTH got to work at it. Sex is just another form of communication, yes?

** Don't blame your parents or anything remotely similar **
What are you? Not your own person? So you cannot control what direction you want to grow in? Bullshit - that's just a simpering, weak excuse. You may not succeed all the time, but at least you've got to know what kind of person you want to grow into. Don't sit there and expect people to spoonfeed you.

You are your own person. You decide the kind of life you want. You control the way you react to things. You can choose to sit on your limpid ass and bitch about things, or you can choose to find a way to make things better.

You can choose to believe your genes won't allow you to orgasm. Or you can bloody choose to speak to your partner in considered and open communication, do Kegel exercises faithfully, and work at it. (Then again, if you fuck for fun, you're on your own. *shrugs*)


You can tell this is a tetchy subject for me.