My end of days

Met some friends for dinner a few days back.


It was really weird... just that afternoon, as I was getting ready to meet them, I was thinking about what I wanted to do at my funeral. I hadn't exactly thought about what I wanted specfically, but I think I know which picture I want displayed. And I know I want something casual, like a barbeque by the beach or something. CASUAL. But joyous.


And then I met Liza and Bernedette for dinner that evening. During the course of dinner, talk turned this very same topic. Turns out all 3 of us have plans for our deaths. lol. Now, if that isn't forward thinking, I don't know what is!


Don't get me wrong. None of us are planning to go anytime soon. All of us love life too much to give in without a damned fight (not that we're mortally sick or anything). None of us think this is a morbid topic either. All of us want something different. As it is, Bernadette turned to me and quipped "We have to tell each other! We don't have kids! We have to do it for each other!!"


She's right. We both of us aren't planning to have children. And when we're old and getting there, we'll need to plan for each other. She does have a partner currently, but when all's said and done, considering we've known each other since we've been 14 years old, I think the understanding is that we'll be there for each other when we're old and decrepit :)) I, for one, love this communion of thought!


But I digress. The common thread of thought is that there'll be no black for mourning, no funeral wake, no sobbing relatives, thank you very much. We're all looking for something a little different, something that'll celebrate life, something that's joyous.


I've thought about it a little, since that day. I told the girls I want a barbeque and I think I'm really warming up to that idea.


A barbeque with scrumptious food, great salad, cold drinks; and the few friends and family members that I have to be present in their comfiest shorts and Ts. I want a large spread to recognise that I've always enjoyed my food! Oh, and I shall be leaving a request that a humongous, moist, DECADENT chocolate fudge or praline cake be devoured as well, to celebrate my love of chocolate! woo! :D


I want a quiet, serene spot on a promontory overlooking a bay, facing into the sunset. People need to eat, drink and be merry; and remember that I've always loved sunsets and being near to water.


Oh, and I want to be cremated too, and my ashes scattered. Preferably after dinner so I don't get into people's food and shit. lol




There, I think that would be perfect!