Fantasy gone awry.

Forewarning:
A few people will know about my BDSM leanings.
If you're not open enough to read my blog without prejudice, then get the fuck off it. Thank you.

Found on Ananova, a story of a woman who thought out a fantasy and then got people involved to act upon it. Her little fantasy included public abduction/kidnapping. Which, of course, being PUBLIC, got the police involved. All 20+ officers, as a matter of fact. (Interestingly enough, a lot of these things go on in your quiet little surburban neighbourhood. You won't know it, because BDSMers are a discrete lot.)

Here's where the woman kinda screwed up, in my personal opnion :

The BDSM community world wide will recognise the 3 basic tenets as being Safe, Sane & Consensual. Safe and Sane are debatable in this woman's case. One would assume that she has thought out her fantasy - including back-up plans, routes and medical issues. If she hasn't, she needs to be educated. Again. But that's another story.

- Consent - Consensual - Consensus -
Consent is taken very importantly; because if it isn't, then BDSMers would, indeed, be no different from (for example) a serial rapist. Consent = agreement between 2 adults on how they should play.

But consensus also involves the people around you. People who might inadvertantly (or not) witness your playtime. And for those not sure, BDSM is such a HUGELY all-encompassing umbrella of anything beyond vanilla sex that yes! role play and fantasies are a substantial part of BDSM for some.

Back to this woman though :
A public kidnapping is not consensual.

It might be part of the woman's fantasy. But do the pedestrains who witnessed the bundling of said woman into the van deserve to go through the shock of having it played out in front of their very eyes?

How about the police officers involved? Did they deserve to feel all that adrenaline? All that fear for a potential victim? All that possible anger at would-be rapists? Do they deserve to be yelled at for saving someoen they thought was in mortal danger?

There's a lot more to kinky play than meets the eye. Those in the lifestyle will appreciate the responsibility that comes with such events. And for those who THINK they know? But fuck up?

I'd like to kick their collective asses for giving us a bad name.